Exclusive Self Leadership Retreat in Italy

Puglia, September 14 to 20, 2026

Life becomes easier when you stop fighting it.

Most of us know what it feels like when life doesn’t go according to plan.

A relationship changes.

A decision turns out differently than expected.

The face in the mirror reminds you that time is moving.

Some things hurt longer than they should.

What makes it harder is often the commentary that follows.

The judgement, self criticism and the feeling that you should be handling it all better.

Over time, that voice can become so familiar that it starts to sound like truth.

This week creates space to notice what is really going on.

Not only around you.

Within you.

And that changes more than most people expect.

To find out more or book your place...

Please contact Rachel at rb@revealingvajra.com if you would like to ask any questions about this retreat or how to book and pay for your place, she will be more than happy to get back to you!

You can also book and pay securely online here. Payments via Paypal, Credit Card or Bank Transfer

Why a holiday isn’t enough

Many of the women who come to Puglia know how to take a good holiday. They have travelled well: beautiful places, great food, time away from work and responsibilities.

Everything slows down for a while and then… life resumes.
The old frustrations return,  the difficult conversations still need to happen and the same doubt appears in a different disguise.

You can travel to the other side of the world and still bring the same mind with you.
I know because I’ve done it myself!
Weeks in Thailand, a month in Bali, 2 months in India: places that felt like paradise.

Coming home rested is wonderful. Coming home different is something else.

 

What tends to change

  • A difficult conversation no longer occupies your mind for three days.
  • Saying no becomes easier.
  • Less energy goes into wondering whether you made the right decision.
  • Stress is recognised earlier.
  • The voice that constantly says “I should be doing better” loses some of its grip.
  • More trust develops in your own judgement.

Life still happens.
People still disappoint you.
Plans still change.

The difference is that those moments no longer pull you off course so easily.

 

Making changes: what we work on

Most people know what they should do to feel better.

The challenge begins when emotions, habits and old reactions get involved.

Throughout the week, we work on a number of practical skills that continue to be useful long after the retreat ends.

  • Responding instead of reacting.
  • Recognising when stress is building, before it takes over.
  • Knowing what to do when a difficult emotion appears.
  • Trusting your own judgement.
  • Seeing where self criticism is making life harder than it needs to be.
  • Becoming less dependent on approval from other people.
  • Learning how to restore your energy in a way that actually works for you.
  • Developing the ability to slow down without immediately reaching for distraction.

Who this is for

You are used to functioning at a high level.

You make decisions. People rely on you. You carry responsibility without needing much support.

At the same time, there are areas in your life where something remains open.

And because you’re always busy, there’s always the next thing so this leaves little time for real introspection. Nothing forces a pause long enough to see what is underneath and this week removes any and all distraction.

If you have been functioning well and still sense that something essential is not fully aligned, this retreat is designed for that exact moment.

Will it all be young 30 year olds? Will it all be older women? 

The average age of the people who have already signed up is 45 so some people are a bit younger and some are a bit older.
On most retreats, the average age is around 42-55 so I’m expecting the same on this Puglia Retreat.

The environment

South of Puglia. Close to the sea.

A Masseria that is quiet, well designed, and uncomplicated.

Everything around you is taken care of.

  • Food.
  • Space.
  • Rhythm.
  • Time to walk, swim, read, rest.

The environment supports the work.

A glimpse of the days: Schedule

8AM: Morning meditation and movement
9AM: Breakfast

10:30AM: Clarity session late morning with meditation

1PM: Lunch and Free time

4PM: Afternoon meditation and clarity work
6PM: Somatic practice

7:30PM: Dinner

Included in your retreat package:

  • Daily Movement classes
  • Daily Self Leadership Sessions
  • Private Session with Rachel
  • All meals and non-alcoholic drinks
  • One full-lenght massage
  • Two full days without your phone > non-negotiable, you have to actually turn your devices in
  • 4 Meditation sessions per day
  • 1 Excursion
  • 1 Guided walk
  • 1 Lunch by the Beach
  • Transfers during the retreat and 1 shared transfer for arrival/departure on the 14th and 20th to/from Brindisi

 

To find out more or book your place...

Please contact Rachel at rb@revealingvajra.com if you would like to ask any questions about this retreat or how to book and pay for your place, she will be more than happy to get back to you!

You can also book and pay securely online here. Payments via Paypal, Credit Card or Bank Transfer

About Rachel Bonkink

For more than twenty years, I have been helping people navigate change, make difficult decisions and create a life that feels more aligned with who they are.

Before founding Revealing Vajra, I worked as a Chief Operating Officer in the corporate world. Today, I still work with organisations and professionals on topics such as mental wellbeing, resilience and leadership.

I understand the realities of demanding careers, busy lives and the pressure that comes with responsibility.

Alongside that work, I have spent the past fourteen years leading retreats internationally. More than a thousand people have joined me on retreat during that time.

Many arrive carrying similar questions.

Why do I keep doubting myself?
Why does the same situation keep triggering me?
How do I find more peace of mind?
What do I do when life becomes difficult?

Most people already know more than they think they do.

What is often missing is the combination of time, structure and honest guidance.
Without that, it is remarkably easy to keep repeating the same conversations, the same doubts and the same habits, even when you genuinely want something to change.

As a certified coach, meditation teacher and author of Flex Your Mind, I bring together practical tools, deep experience and a straightforward approach that people often find both grounding and refreshing.

My interest has never been meditation for its own sake.
It has always been the same question: How do we stop making life harder than it needs to be?

Practical

September 14 to 20, 2026
Masseria Potenti, Puglia

Closest airport: Brindisi
Bari is also possible, at your own cost.

Six to ten people

3750 Euro / 4400 USD (payment is in EURO)
695 Euro non refundable deposit

Includes accommodation, meals, all sessions, one massage, excursion and beach lunch.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this a meditation retreat or a self leadership retreat?

Meditation is one of the tools we use throughout the week.

The purpose goes beyond meditation itself.

You learn how your mind operates under pressure, what happens when difficult emotions arise and what helps you return to a steadier place when life becomes challenging.

Many people understand their patterns intellectually.

This week is about learning what to do in the moments those patterns show up.

Who is the Puglia Retreat for?

Most people who join are professionals, entrepreneurs or women with significant responsibilities.

From the outside, life often looks quite successful.

Underneath, there is usually a growing awareness that something needs attention.

This retreat is for women who are ready to stop postponing that conversation.

Do I need meditation experience?

No.

Some participants have been meditating for years.

Others are complete beginners.

Curiosity matters more than experience.

I get bored easily. Will there be enough to do?

Boredom is rarely the issue.

Most people discover how quickly the mind looks for something to do.

Another activity, another plan or distraction.

The week includes four meditation sessions a day, movement, self leadership sessions, a massage, time by the pool, walks, the beach and an excursion. There is plenty of space to rest, reflect, swim, read or go for a run.

This is your week.

What makes this retreat different from a wellness retreat?

A wellness retreat helps you relax.

This week explores what keeps creating stress in the first place.

You return rested, of course.

More importantly, you return with practical tools that help you navigate difficult moments, trust yourself more and create greater peace of mind in everyday life.

Why are there two days without devices?

Most people underestimate how often they reach for distraction.

Messages, news, work, social media.

Two days without devices creates a very different experience.

Attention settles.

Thoughts become easier to observe.

Many participants describe these two days as the most valuable part of the retreat.

Is this retreat suitable for women travelling from the US or Canada?

Absolutely.

The group is international and many participants travel alone.

Brindisi is the closest airport.

Bari is also possible and is approximately a two hour drive away.

Can I extend my stay?

Yes.

Many participants choose to stay a little longer and explore more of Puglia, several are arriving earlier.

Popular destinations include Lecce, Alberobello, Polignano a Mare and Grottaglie.

The extension is separate from the retreat itself and can be organised independently.

Next step

If this experience resonates with you? Reach out.

rb@revealingvajra.com

+32 476 204 121 for whatsapp

We can have a chat and see if this is the right retreat for you right now.

Looking for a different entry point?
The Morocco retreats offer a softer pace at a different price point.

October, Marrakech, 17 to 24 or Christmas, Marrakech, 18 to 25.

 

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